Arrogance in the spirit of childhood wisdom
self-importance, pomposity, egotism pompousness, imperiousness, Hubris immodesty,big-headedness, vainglory Arrogance in the spirit of childhood wisdom is on the increase in our society and on social media at large.
Young people may think that because they are in the same educational institution with adults, they are equals in every right. Some may also think that every member of the social media group is an age mate.
Such youth or adolescents may only qualify to be the children of other members of the same social group by virtue of their ages and experiences in life.
Life is a learning curve and today’s youth ought to do away with the wrong boastful, pompous attitudes and I know it all behavours they acquired while in secondary school.
According to Albert Einstein “The more the knowledge, the lesser the ego and the lees the knowledge, the more the ego” That is to say that knowledge makes people humble while ignorance makes them arrogant.
In a world that has been confused and deceived to see what is wrong as right, growing up adults blinded by their belief that “they have arrived” and equal to their parents show their ignorance of how to behave well in public and in groups made up of dynamic individuals.
When you have grown-ups who throw abusive words to strangers and show the whole world their rotten character, you are only seeing the home they come from being mirrored in character.
“Smart mouth” is not something to be proud of if you are a grown adult reading this because you only portray your arrogance in the spirit of childhood wisdom.
You think you know it all, you are right and everyone is wrong and in your blurred vision which lacks all the maturity your character needs, you speak rudely and insult with impunity and you call it fashion.
“My eyes are open”, “ I am of age”, “They say, we must be confident”, “ I won’t let anyone make me look stupid” are just but a few of the statements that such persons put up as a defence for their inappropriate behaviours.
A lecturer at one of the universities one his first day at school for the semester work walked into the lecture room from the rare.
He requested that one of the female students moved further into the sitting row so that he can have a sit.
The lady vehemently refused because she had reserved the seats for some other colleagues, and went further to be abusive and disrespectful.
The lecturer quietly moved to the next row and asked another student to allow him to sit by him.
This time he was greeted by a welcoming face beaming with smiles.
Not knowing each other, they became friends there and then and hard a lengthy chart. They discussed their expectations without disclosing their identity.
Soon other students arrived except the Lecturer and the class was ready for the first lesson of the semester.
Just then the lecturer who had previously been treated with disrespect by a student got up, and walked to the front and introduced himself.
The day’s lesson started in earnest and continued for close to three hours. The disrespectful student who was never compromising thinking she “has arrived” and her colleagues who misbehaved felt very bad and tensed throughout the day.
It is very important that we are careful with the way we treat strangers.
Never judge strangers by their appearance nor by your success.
Very often, they are blessings in disguise.
When I was studying for my Diploma in Accounting in the year 2000, I met this guy who was so rude towards me and wanted to fight me because I had a divergent view on a matter he was interested in.
A few months after completion of school, this gentleman was directed to my office to submit his application letter for employment.
I was shocked when I saw him and I realized he felt very uneasy. He was finally invited for the interview but he never turned up.
Your guess is as good as mine.
While confident people admit their ignorance because they don’t doubt their intellect, arrogant people show they are right because being wrong hurts their credibility.
Confident people approach strangers because they don’t doubt the value of their company and conversation but arrogant people work through their networks because they already know they will be accepted.
Confident people act like fools when they feel like it because they don’t doubt their worth, however; arrogant people act like they are confident because otherwise, people might stop taking them seriously.
As a youth, know that humility is a virtue and those who have it accept the possibility of being wrong, they are courteous and respectful, tolerant, quietly confident and have gratitude but if you are an arrogant person, the best you can do is to insist that you are always right, disdainful of others, such persons are loud “bravados” (False show of courage). Arrogant people see themselves as right when the right thinking members of society think otherwise.
Respect for oneself is an important element that is missing in the lives of many in society, copying attitudes blindly from others and characters in operas on television is a contributing factor not forgetting the internet and cultures of other societies.
Today, many find it extremely difficult if not impossible to differentiate between arrogance and defending the indefensible. The call arrogance modernity and the indefensible a fight for their rights. The youth of Africa, and the world at large must ponder over the issues here and what is right as future leaders of tomorrows Africa.